Everyone is gone and your on your own

This is as hard for me to write as it is for you to read but maybe I can clear up a few things to help guide you in your journey. I can remember thinking to myself and say “Now I have to send out the thank you…reply’s, read the condolences and finalize all of the unpleasant details”. You may find it hard to function at all, I know I did. If your lucky your children or close family relatives will help you and you need to let them its part of their grieving process as well. It is said that the 5 stages of grief and loss are: 1. Denial and isolation; 2. Anger; 3. Bargaining; 4. Depression; 5. Acceptance.

People who are grieving do not necessarily go through the stages in the same order or experience all of them. I seem to have experienced them all at the same time or at least #4 and #5 were at the same time and I don’t think I experienced #3 at all. Some lasted longer than others and I still have days that I ask the question Why?

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Yes I’m going there and I’ve been there.

Yes, I’m going there and I’ve been there.

Now your alone and wondering What the hell happened, What do I do now? It sounds cold and I’m sorry but facts are facts. Find a local grief share group a lot of churches provide this to anyone or talk with friends, clergy or rabbi and tell them what you feel. The sooner the better. I found a grief share group and went two weeks after my wife passed away. Only you will know when and who to talk to but do it now! If you are having thoughts of suicide get in touch with some help.

Call 1-800-273-8255
Available 24 hours every day
Think of what your spouse would think of what you want to do. Think of the sadness your kids and loved ones will go through if you manage to pull it off.
Assuming you have decided to speak with someone good for you your on your way to turn to a new chapter in your life and that’s OK. It does not in any way change the life you had it’s just new and differed. In time you will not cry when you think of your previous chapters and will be able to talk about them with fondness and even smile.
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